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Kaleidescope Thought Medicine The Magic of Seeing in a New Way

“When we change our point of view, it can be astonishing how different our experience can be.”

I love the metaphor of looking through a kaleidoscope. Mundane objects suddenly become incredibly beautiful.  More importantly, it only takes the tiniest flick of the wrist to create an entirely different picture. In an earlier post I wrote about the concept of trim tabs – those tiny rudders that help huge ships change course.  Today I want to give a few examples of the power and joy of seeing things in a new way.

Everything Depends on Your Point of View

My friend Robert Scheinfeld, author of the mind-bending book  Busting Loose from the Money Game, likes to demonstrate this idea by comparing the different experiences one can have of a football game. It all depends on your point of view.

If you are one of the players on the field you’ll be keenly aware of the other players around you at any given moment.  You’ll see, hear and yes, smell things that people just a few feet away on the sidelines won’t.

Moving our point of view further up into the stands to a fan’s point of view, we are able to see the entire football field and how all of the players are interacting at once.  While it’s true from this perspective we have less sensory information than a player on the field, we gain the ability to see the larger patterns in the game as they play out.

Television cameras bring the ability for referees to replay close calls in slow-motion giving us the ability to see things formerly invisible to the eye that may change the outcome of the game or even an entire season.

Moving even further out, the blimp’s eye view of the stadium reveals a completely different perspective of abstract beauty.

Shifting Your Inner Kaleidoscope

A teacher once told me the story of much he had suffered as a child because for years he had never heard his father say the words, “I love you.” My teacher grew up and moved away without ever being told his father loved him. He remained sad and even annoyed whenever he called home because his father never seemed satisfied by all of his son’s accomplishments. Instead, because they were strict vegetarians, his father would nag him about was what he was eating.

One day in a flash of insight my teacher’s inner kaleidoscope turned and he saw the concern about his diet wasn’t criticism, it was his father’s way of showing love. From that moment on whenever his father brought up the subject of food, my teacher would smile and say, “I love you too dad.”

At first this was confusing to his father, but one day my teacher was surprised when his father responded and unexpectedly said, “I love you too, son.”  These days his father never fails to say how much he loves him. And should his father forget to mention food, my teacher wistfully says, “Aren’t you going to ask me about what I’m eating Pop?”

Shifting Your Personal Point of View Has a Ripple Effect

We can change things in the world by changing our point of view or by seeing how to combine things in a new way.  And it isn’t just adults who have this ability. A turn of the kaleidoscope reveals that kids are often good at this.

When he was only 11 years old, Casey Golden was disturbed by the number of trees that were destroyed each year to make golf tees.  So he cooked up a biodegradable cornstarch version in his kitchen with his mom.

That invention was patented, picked up by K-mart and became Casey’s first company. His idea has inspired a whole new industry of cornstarch-based eating implements from chopsticks to plates. Today Casey Golden heads a company called Small Act which teaches non-profits how to create raise funds via social media.

Meet GLASSPHEMY!:

A New York community plagued with broken glass in empty lots was failing at efforts to get people to stop breaking bottles or to clean up the glass. Then a woman turned the kaleidoscope when she asked, “What if we make breaking bottles part of the recycling?” The result?

Glassphemy, a 20-foot high, 30-foot long steel tower designed for participants to hurl glass bottles at friends, enemies, and loved ones who are safely shielded behind bulletproof glass.

What’s not to love about a recycling center celebrates the illicit thrill of breaking bottles while providing material that is reused to make lights and other cool stuff?
Here’s a short video of the action on a typical night of recycling at Glassphemy.

Warning: It’s noisy!

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positive thinking in stressful times

This morning I happened to run across an article I wrote in 2004 and was inspired by my own words.  Like a letter in a bottle, my own wisdom reached through time and space at just the right moment. It gave me an idea I’ll share with you at the end of the article which I’m reprinting here, with some minor revisions. Enjoy!

Not so long ago, I hit one of those speed bumps in life. Business was slow, my relationships were unfulfilling and the headlines had become bleak. Feeling depressed and blue, I kept waiting for a change. I was wanting life to become better, happier, brighter, but it didn’t. In desperation I turned within for guidance and asked, “How can I find more joy in life?”

I could almost hear my guides chuckling at my question. Then they said, as angels always do, “Fear not for we bring you tidings of great joy!” Gently they reminded me to stop waiting for someone or something to bring me joy. I scrambled for pen and paper and began writing the words that were streaming into my mind.

“Remember the word is ‘En-joy!’ We suggest you begin finding ways to put joy into life rather than waiting to get joy out of life. Joy is not something to passively wait for. Joy is something you create with intention. It is an action. The choice is yours. Remember that to ‘Re-joice’ means choosing to return to joy again and again, no matter what.”

 

It was true.  I’d been waiting passively for joy to just happen so I could “follow my joy.” I began to experiment with “en-joying” my life. It wasn’t always easy, and I had to start with baby steps. As I took my daily walk, I appreciated the beauty of the flowers rather than focusing on my problems. I began to notice there were lots of things I could enjoy if I only looked for them. 

Slowly my life began to improve. My relationships became warmer and I began to heal some very old family issues. My practice began to grow and bloom with new opportunities and increased abundance. Though the headlines continued to be disappointing, I chose to enjoy what was going right in the world, rather than despairing over what was not. I learned that joy is an active heart energy I can choose to send to anyone or any situation. Even to myself. I didn’t need to wait for a reason.

You may ask “How can I feel good when so much around me is bad?” As Wayne Dyer notes, “no amount of your feeling bad has ever helped one person on this planet.”

In fact there’s a lot of evidence you can more effectively help others if you keep your heart connected to joy. Consider the Dalai Lama who has been in exile from his beloved Tibet for most of his life, yet he is always smiling, a beacon of compassion. Mother Teresa spent her life serving the poor and terminally ill -people in the most hopeless of circumstances – yet she remained bouyant and cheerful. Mattie Stepanek lived most of his 13 years in a wheelchair, yet he was a peacemaker and poet whose joyful message of “finding your heartsong” inspired millions.

Of course, I often forget and find myself indulging in the old pattern. It takes practice to rejoice!

So here’s my invitation: Will you join me in an experiment? It’s very simple: Are you willing to give yourself permission to begin practicing Unreasonable Joy in as many moments and circumstances as possible? Instead of “following your joy,” let’s find out what happens when you lead with it. I would love to hear about your results.

For more info about Mattie Stepanek: http://www.mattieonline.com/

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Buckminster Fuller Trim Tab

By Linda Gabriel

Buckminster Fuller, one of the great geniuses of the 20th century, loved the metaphor of “trim tabs” for understanding how to leverage personal power. Famous  for inventing the geodesic dome and coining the word “synergy,”  Fuller felt he’d wasted the first part of his life. He would often go on drinking binges, neglected his family, and hadn’t achieved much. Then when he was 32, his only daughter died. Blaming himself  for not being home when the child passed away, he fell into a severe depression. The story goes that soon afterward Fuller went alone into the ocean, wading further and further from shore, contemplating suicide. In that moment of desperation the thought occurred  that he hadn’t really given his life a chance. Who was he to waste a life? Was life really was worth living? Fuller decided the only way to answer that question would be to turn his life into a sort of experiment. From that moment on he resolved to spend all his energy finding out what a single human life could achieve. It turned out to be quite a lot.

In a 1972 interview Bucky explained the power of trim tabs:

“Something hit me very hard once, thinking about what one little man could do.”

“Something hit me very hard once, thinking about what one little man could do. Think of the Queen Mary — the whole ship goes by and then comes the rudder. And there’s a tiny thing at the edge of the rudder called a trim tab. It’s a miniature rudder. Just moving the little trim tab builds a low pressure that pulls the rudder around. Takes almost no effort at all. So I said that the little individual can be a trim tab. Society thinks it’s going right by you, that it’s left you altogether. But if you’re doing dynamic things mentally, the fact is that you can just put your foot out like that and the whole big ship of state is going to go. So I said, call me Trim Tab.”

“So I said, call me Trim Tab.”

The first time I read this I was astonished at the elegant simplicity of the idea of using a trim tab. But while Bucky Fuller was speaking about the power of one person to affect society, I began to wonder about the power of the trim tab metaphor in a more personal way. Instead of trying to change “society” what about just changing myself? What trim tabs could I find to create small shifts in awareness or behavior that might leverage a much larger effect in my life?

Micro-Gratitude is certainly a trim tab. Another powerful trim tab we have is language. Our everyday way of speaking has so much power to shape the quality of our lives with very little effort. The words you choose can affect your level of self-confidence, your mood, and even your perception of the world. I offered some suggestions about the power of language in Three Words That Can Change Your Life.

Here are a couple more ideas:
Think of something you’ve been procrastinating about doing. I suggest starting with something small like, “I have to organize my desk,” or “I have to go to the dentist.” Notice how you feel when you say or even think the phrase, “I have to…”

Now think about something you enjoy doing. Again pick something small. When it comes to things we like to do, we usually say something like, “I get to go to the movies this afternoon,” or “I get to have some time to myself this weekend.” Notice how you feel when you say or think the phrase, “I get to…” Feels good, right?

Notice how you feel when you say or think the phrase, “I get to…” Feels good, right?

Here’s where it gets fun. Notice what happens when you start changing your “have to’s” to “get to’s.” Try it see if it reduces your resistance. You may be surprised to find a dramatic change for the better. Don’t worry if at first you feel sarcastic or develop an urge to giggle. “I get to do the dishes!” “I get to walk the dog.” “I get to pick up the kids at school.” “I get to go to work.” “I get to go run some errands – anyone want to join in the fun?”

If you want to “kick it up a notch” take a moment to really let the “get to” feeling sink in. With the new label your subconscious will actually begin to file things differently so you will tend to experience less resistance. And with less resistance, it becomes easier to realize that you truly are lucky to “get to” do almost anything in life, even those things that you’ve been resisting.

The more you can appreciate each moment of your life, the happier you feel.

It’s really very simple.

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To learn more about Buckminster Fuller visit www.bfi.org

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