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Let Go of Your Fear of Making a Mistake

“When you are afraid to make a mistake, you don’t allow yourself to find out what’s possible.”

Do you believe you’re a failure if you try something and it doesn’t work out?

That’s a very limiting belief.

Albert Einstein said, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” To Einstein mistakes were learning opportunities. You’ll find that most successful people make a lot of mistakes along the way but they don’t let that stop them. They learn from their mistakes and use them as stepping stones from what doesn’t work to what will.

Most of us remember the experience of being shamed for our errors when we were kids.
Parents, teachers and especially other kids are quick to ridicule mistakes. Perhaps you raised your hand in second grade, made a mistake, and were embarrassed in front of the class. Or witnessed it happen to someone else. Such a moment can be traumatic. It’s not uncommon for a part of you to get stuck in the past experience. We end up having a subconscious, or even conscious, aversion toward any situation which reminds us of that uncomfortable incident.

Now we’re adults but when faced with trying something new, we may still be operating with a second grader’s fear of being wrong. This keeps many people feeling closed-in, timid, and small. The fear of being wrong can stop you in your tracks. At the very least it slows down your energy, limits your abundance, and stifles your creativity. When you are afraid to make a mistake, you don’t allow yourself to find out what’s possible.

“When I told my friends I was going to be a comedian, they laughed at me.” ~ Carrot Top

If you’re interested in finding out what’s possible, it helps if you’re willing to try a few things that might not succeed. Are you willing to move beyond your current limits and be willing to risk making a few mistakes? Outside of the rare case where taking a risk involves life, limb or large sums of money, the main thing you’re likely to risk is injury to your ego.

I’ve noticed that creative, successful people are much more comfortable with their “failures” than the average person. They’ve learned to remain powerful in the face of “no.” In order to do that, you have to get comfortable with making mistakes and maybe even doing so in public. I’m not saying that making a mistake is fun, though it can be.

If you affirm that mistakes are simply information or feedback, it will make things much easier. If you keep on experimenting, you will develop the character trait of persistence. Some people might say you’re a fool, but when you move past your previous limitations, the same people will think you are amazing.

You’re not a failure if you make a mistake. You’re only a failure if you let mistakes stop you.

“I’m not a genius. I’ve just made a lot more mistakes than most people.” ~ Buckminster Fuller

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Neuroplasticity

“It turns out your brain is a work in progress, not only in childhood but throughout your life.”

It wasn’t too long ago that medical science assured us that once we reached a certain age, our brains didn’t change. The old saying insisted, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” Recent research has turned that notion upside down.  It turns out your brain is a work in progress, not only in childhood but throughout your life.  You can teach an old human new tricks and when you do, the old human’s brain changes.  This ability for the brain to change is called plasticity.

Magnetic resonance imagery (MRI) has demonstrated structural changes in the brains of adults who meditate, play music, and even taxi drivers learning their way around London.  The structures of the brain involved in learning these activities actually grow larger and more active with practice. While scientists used to believe that behavior was strictly a result of brain activity, it’s becoming clear that the things you do, especially the things you practice over and over, actually shape your brain. It’s a two way street.

It Matters What You Do

When you practice an activity your brain fires neurons in a particular sequence called a neural pathway. As Donald O. Hebb once said, “Neurons that fire together, wire together.”  When Daniel Coyle titled his book The Talent Code: Greatness Isn’t Born. It’s Grown. Here’s How, he was referring to neuroscience that links myelin – a substance surrounding nerve fibers that insulates electrical activity – with skill building. According to Coyle, myelin is increased through what he calls “deep practice.” Increased myelin affects the signal strength, speed and accuracy of the electric signals traveling through nerve fibers. More practice = more myelin = more skill.

“Neurons that fire together, wire together.”

However the opposite is also true.  If you don’t “exercise” a neural  pathway in your brain, that pathway’s signal will weaken. Perhaps this is one reason why multitasking may inhibit productivity. If the ability to focus attention for enough time to complete a task is a learned skill, then it’s worth considering how the constant interruptions typical in today’s digital age may be fostering an inability to concentrate.

It Matters How You Do What You Do

Brain research shows that “multitasking” is not an accurate description because you aren’t really doing things simultaneously.  In fact multitasking requires your brain to switch attention back and forth between tasks. We should recognize multitasking for what it really is: self-interruption. Multitasking is the 180 degree opposite of Coyle’s “deep practice.”

So why do we do it? Perhaps because the act of multitasking temporarily boosts the level of dopamine in your brain. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter which in small amounts gives you the feeling of accomplishment and reward.  Even though you may  feel happy about getting a lot done at once, it’s an illusion. With the exception of extremely familiar tasks like folding laundry while you talk on the phone, studies show that for tasks requiring some level of comprehension,  multitasking always takes more time than if you did each task separately.  When you divide your attention you rob yourself of the opportunity to do a good job efficiently. More importantly,  you miss the chance to strengthen desirable neural pathways.

It Matters What You Think

In studies of musicians or taxi drivers, the brain-changing behaviors were primarily the result of physical activities. However the research involving meditators showed that their brain changes were solely the result of how the subjects focused their minds. Brain imaging technology has shown increased blood flow and electrical activity associated with different thoughts, but now there’s new evidence that thoughts actually influence brain chemistry.

The connection between the neurotransmitter serotonin and mood has long been known, but the it was believed that your serotonin level influenced your sense of well-being, not the other way around. A report in the 2007 Journal of Psychiatry & Neuroscience states, “The study by Perreau-Linck and colleagues is the first to report that self-induced changes in mood can influence serotonin synthesis. This raises the possibility that the interaction between serotonin synthesis and mood may be 2-way, with serotonin influencing mood and mood influencing serotonin.”

Thinking happier thoughts, focusing on the positive, and cultivating an “attitude of gratitude” all increase the physical potential of your brain to experience more joy and happiness. And that’s practicing good Thought Medicine!

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What Can We Learn from the Movie Inception
Have you heard of the new science of Memetics? It’s the study of  memes – units of consciousness (aka thoughts) – how they interact, replicate, and evolve.

Note: This article does NOT contain spoilers. It’s safe to read even if you haven’t seen the movie.

I love it when a popular film comes along that not only entertains but manages to seed new ideas.

When Obi Wan Kenobi instructed Luke Skywalker to “use the Force,” Western minds were introduced to the concept of an invisible energy field that had long been described in other cultures as chi, prana or mana. Quantum physicists refer to it as the quantum field.

The English language is woefully deficient in ways to describe such things as subtle energy, but once we had “the Force” as part of our lexicon, English-speaking people could “grok” it. Later Neo swallowed the Red Pill, took us “down the rabbit hole” and the concept of “The Matrix” became part of mainstream vocabulary and consciousness.

Similarly, the new film Inception popularizes three basic concepts that are near and dear to my heart because I’ve found them quite useful for understanding more about how we experience consciousness. Discussions around these subjects could fill scores of books and I will be returning to them in subsequent posts but for now I’ll just make a brief note about each.

1. Your subconscious is more powerful than your conscious mind.

Way more powerful.

Hypnotherapists know this of course. Working with the subconscious is the key to our success with clients.  But even hypnotherapists are held hostage by the subjective feeling that it’s our conscious minds running the show. It’s an illusion. Most of the time the subconscious is in charge of our behavior and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. (I like to make a distinction between “unconscious” and “subconscious.”)  Inception is the first time I’ve seen a popular film spell this out so clearly.  While most books on psychology or behavior rarely list “subconscious” in the index – I know because it’s the first thing I check – Inception puts the subconscious mind front and center.  It’s the field within which most, if not all, the film’s action unfolds. Very cool.

2. Thoughts are seeds.

More importantly, it’s from these seeds that our decisions and actions grow.

Cobb: “What’s the most resilient parasite? An Idea. A single idea from the human mind can build cities. An idea can transform the world and rewrite all the rules.”  ~ from the film Inception, Christopher Nolan, Writer/Director

Have you heard of the new science of Memetics? It’s the study of  memes – units of consciousness (aka thoughts) – how they interact, replicate, and evolve. The word meme (rhymes with “seem”) was coined by Richard Dawkins in his book The Selfish Gene. One of the basic tenets held by memeticists is that the mind isn’t so much the creator of thoughts but a “carrier host” for them.  According to memetics  a “good” or “successful” meme as an idea or belief that spreads easily thoughout a population.  In other words a good meme is not the same thing as a good idea. That’s the kind of paradigm shifting thought (meme) that can make you much more careful about what memes you choose to carry and spread to others! Richard Brodie explores this idea in his excellent and surprisingly enjoyable book Virus of the Mind, The New Science of the Meme. Brodie offers several perspectives on the evolving definition of memes:

Biological Definition (from Dawkins): A meme is the basic unit of cultural transmission, or imitation.

Psychological Definition (from Henry Plotkin): A meme is the unit of cultural heredity analogous to the gene. It’s the internal representation of knowledge.

Cognitive Definition (from Daniel Dennet): A meme is an idea, the kind of complex idea that forms itself into a distinct, memorable unit. It is spread by vehicles that are physical manifestations of the meme.

Brodie finally settles on a working definition: A meme is a unit of information in a mind whose existence influences events such that more copies of itself get created in other minds. He also makes the point that memetics is a scientific model: “It’s one way of looking at things. It’s looking at ideas – memes – as distinct entities in competition for a share of your mind and a share of everyone else’s. When those ideas are harmful… understanding this model can show you how to combat the infection.”

“We can either give up on the hope of having a fulfilling and better world, or consciously choose which memes we want to spread.” ~Richard Brodie

If  you have read this far, congratulations! You now can claim bragging rights as a bonafide carrier of “metamemes” – memes about memes!

3. Reality is relative and multi-dimensional.

Einstein said, “Reality is an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” Enlightened Ones through the ages tell us the material world is “maya” or illusion. Mystics, philosophers and physicists agree: we don’t understand nature of reality.  Perhaps it’s more precise to say that the more we investigate reality, the more it seems there really isn’t any “there” there.  If that weren’t enough, the current version of string theory suggests that there are at least 11 dimensions of reality existing simultaneously.

Proceed with caution as the following questions have been known to fry brain circuitry.

    How do we know what we know is so?
    How do we know something is really true?
    What’s the difference between memory and imagination?
    Where does the past exist?
    Where do my thoughts come from?
    If I’m not my thoughts, who am I?

When I ponder such ideas – and yes, they are memes every one – it helps to remind myself that perhaps the Mystery isn’t meant to be solved so much as experienced and enjoyed.

While science can describe and even make predictions based on the laws of physics, physicists admit we still don’t understand what gravity actually is or how light is actually produced or why its speed is constant.  Neuroscience still hasn’t got a clue about what a thought is even though everyone seems to have an infinite supply.

And what about love? Is it just a hormonal function of biology, a strategy for survival of the species, or egos, or something much, much more?

If you enjoy this sort of thought labyrinth then you will most certainly enjoy the mental playground Christopher Nolan has created with his film Inception. If you’ve seen the film and want to read a fun and interesting discussion on the ending (spoiler alert!) read this article by Rupert Pupkin .

If you prefer something more grounded in science fact, you may enjoy this video of Richard Gott talking about How Can Space and Time be the Same Thing? from the PBS series Closer to Truth.

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